To start off, read this 1st.
http://www.thenategreenexperience.com/blog/what-makes-you-a-man
Is He A Real Man?
How true about the society today and perceived image of the world by people around us.
“Let’s face it, most of us are lazy. We don’t read or educate ourselves more than we have to. (When’s the last time you read a book that wasn’t assigned to you?) We have fickle self-esteem and mistake machismo for manliness, a by-product of watching hero movies and never connecting with any of our friends. We have shallow romantic relationships we don’t work at to make better.”
But today I’m not gonna talk about what a real man is. It’s already defined in the link earlier. I’m here to talk about what the hell has happened to us compared to the past.
Have our lives been 1 disaster after another?
Everyone wants to be in the limelight these days. Everyone wants to be the centre of attraction and affection. And in order to do that, they put down others around them and become all Alpha. But is alpha really alpha, or but a pathetic attempt to cover up the pussy who’s within. Crazy antics, loud voices and all apparent snobbish-ness, that’s what’s been seen all around. Gone are the days where people are really genuine and want to be your friend. Instead, you’re only a friend when you’ve some value, if not please f**k off.
A true man never needs to show off or tell anyone how good he is. He lets others do the talking for him. He just goes about doing his stuff. Like they say, empty vessels make the most noise. There isn’t a need to declare to the world how awesome one is. I believe there still exist this phrase called the Silent Strong Male.
What happened to this guy?
And so, we have shallow friendships. We also have shallow relationships. It’s true the media has poisoned the minds of countless guys. To be a gentleman, you got to be all sugar and nice. As a result you see 2 types of guys these days.
a) Weak, nice, pansy looking kinda guy
b) Bad ass looking, strong arrogant guy
Which brings me to this question. What happened to the mature, intelligent, confident guy? Is he hiding somewhere in Alaska? After a while, guys realize that being all sweet and nice doesn’t pay off. So he turns into a swaggering, dominating alpha male. Pretty soon the ladies flock to this newly improved guy. But 5 years down the road, the guy is around, “playing the field”. None of his relationships have born fruit and they were merely for satisfying the ego and of course, his dick. Whatever happened to treasuring relationships and appreciating a woman for who she really is? Seems like it’s all about me, me and me. I’m not saying go start seeing your girl 24 hours a day and stuff like that. I’m saying put down your f**king ego and start thinking for once, how can i truly make this girl happy. She might laugh, have a good time, but at the end of the day, it could just be a fleeting happiness.
So many relationships break off these days because people are so busy satisfying what they want. It becomes a parasitic relationship. So much for “being in love” huh. It’s easy to fall in love. Basically we humans were wired that way. What’s hard is maintaining it. We complain that a relationship ended because of this and that reason, yet never do anything to remedy it. We will always be spoilt for choice, but till the day we make up our mind, we’ll always be distracted by this and that.
Neglect the people around you, and you will suffer. You are the sum of the people around you. Your family, your friends, your spouse/bf/gf. If all 3 groups think you’re f**ked up, chances are you really are.
